I recently launched a new non-profit organisation called The Porn Conversation with my husband Pablo! Our mission is to offer tools for parents to use to instigate the talk about online porn with their kids at home. We want to give adults the opportunity to help kids and teens make smart and informed decisions regarding pornography and about healthy, consensual relationships!

Helping kids to understand healthy relationships and sexuality from a young age has lasting effects. Not only do they need the right kind of education, they also need a safe, secure environment to learn and grow in. A lot of children who come from broken families or parents with damaged marriages can  struggle to form healthy relationships in adult life. They may face trust issues, resentment and even warped ideas about consent and relationships based on equality, after having to grasp the concept of parents splitting, dividing and taking respective ownership of parts of their lives together. With same sex marriage and paternal rights gaining equal footing, are “nuclear families” beginning to feel a little outdated?

Studies over the past few years have shown that children with same sex, gay, lesbian or trans parents can often be healthier and happier than those with “normal” parents i.e. a straight, married couple. Children with same-sex parents actually outscored others with regards to general health and family cohesion, according to this study I read about in Australia! It seems that parents who have had to struggle against social norms, might have a little more valuable experience to share with their children and understand the importance of communication and understanding! Sounds like the perfect recipe for parenting to me!

But what about going a step further and taking romantic relationships out of parenting completely? Like these two “co-mammas” from Canada did? I found this article on The Pool about the idea of friend parenting. Just like it says on the tin, two best friends decided to legally raise one of their children together! They are the first two women in history to do this, and bravo to them! They found that they both loved the child and had a vested interest in his care and future, so why not legally split the responsibilities and costs of raising him and make sure he has two lawful mothers instead of one? Without the romantic complications of a normal parental relationship, this is a strong and solid family foundation. Unions like this could also mean that single mothers specifically have more support, more opportunity to work and help with finances. All without reinstating the idea that when you grow up you should be monogamous, straight and married.

And just like with same-sex couples, would two women or two men who feel comfortable with each other as friends, be more likely to have the porn conversation with their kids? Perhaps it would take some of the pressure off both the parents and the child! I think all parents are capable of helping their kids on their way to understanding sexuality and consent, but I’ll be interested to see how family structures progress and become more diverse over time, and the positive effects this has on younger generations!

If you’re looking for some advice on how to talk to your kids about porn, check out The Porn Conversation now! It’s full of useful articles and guides about how to talk to kids of all ages! 

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My dear Lusties, Spring is in the air!

And you know what that means, so is sun and sex and everything lustful!

Put your coats back in the cupboard, get off the sofa, feel the sun on your skin! Here are 10 ways to brush off the winter blues and get sexy for Spring!

That sweet, sweet Spring breeze 

Finally, it’s warm enough to open your windows wide and let that Spring breeze tantilise your skin. Feel the wind in your hair (and your pubic hair) and basically be naked at all times. Make the most of it before the fiery heat of summer arrives and everything gets sticky and sweaty!

Foreplay just got more interesting 

With warmth comes many, sexy possibilities. After months of being stuck under a duvet, you can explore all that foreplay has to offer! Why not crack out some ice cubes and relieve that new Spring heat with some seriously chill foreplay?

It’s warm enough to show some skin 

Now that your coat, hat and scarf are safely stowed away in the closet for many months, it’s time to enjoy those skimpy, thigh grazing summer dresses. The months ahead call for soft, light, silky fabrics to keep you cool and make you feel sensationally sexy! Get the sun on your skin and enjoy some well deserved vitamin D…

Your body positivity just reached new heights  ✌️

With summer on it’s way you’re relaxed, sun kissed and full of serotonin. No matter your shape or size, be ready to flaunt that body positive attitude and show the world how incredibly sexy you are! And then get back into bed immediately, because it worked a little too well and you’ll probably be fucking a lot…

Seasonal foods are super sexy 

There is nothing like a few fresh fruits and vegetables to get certain other juices flowing and if you haven’t enjoyed them in the bedroom before, you must stop what you’re doing at once and feast on natures naughtiest delicacies…

April showers are sexy! 

For those of us who don’t live in deserts, Spring isn’t always sunshine and strawberries. But who cares! Embrace those seasonal showers and listen to the relaxing raindrops while you lie in bed… Or alternatively, put your wellies on, go outside and have sex in it! Raincoats are the closest you can get to latex in public without raising eyebrows…

Flowers are sexy! 

It’s not just the birds and the bees who should be getting busy pollinating this Spring. Fill your home with some exhilarating scents, try a bit of romance, smell the roses! Embrace everything that is bright, beautiful and sexy!

Literally everyone is on heat 

It’s undeniable that Spring is by far the most lustful time of year. Everywhere you look everyone is wide eyed, excited and lusting. Plus, everyone starts looking way hotter on the lead up to summer! It won’t be difficult to find your fair share of inspiration with all this new electricity in the air…

It’s time to start having outdoor sex again 

Probably one of the best things about having seasons other than winter, is the opportunity for al fresco fucking! Whether you come across a secluded beach, a discreet wooded area or even the backseat of your car, make the most of it and be one with nature!

It’s what nature intended! 

And of course, let’s not forget that Spring is nature’s mating season. Once you’ve gotten the cute cooing over birdies, lambs and bunnies out of your system, embrace your animalistic urges and indulge in the sexiest time of year!

To help you enjoy this magical season, I’m giving you 20% off all sex toys in Lust Store when you use the code HOTSPRING!

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We have a new artist on XConfessions!

It’s not often that we find the female image portrayed by men with the attention, detail and respect that we see in Andri Kioava‘s photographs. Born in Georgia, Eastern Europe, but raised mainly in the United States, Andri recently graduated in graphic design at The City College of New York, but spends a lot of his time photographing delicate but evocative nudes, transposed with breathtaking landscapes and textures. Andri reflects the influence of the strong women in his personal life (including his partner) into his images, making it a priority to empower and portray both intimacy and strength. I came across his Instagram account and felt a distinct connection. His images reminded me of my work in XConfessions shorts; the bold colours, the quality and his use of light. I contacted him straight away and he agreed to collaborate with XConfessions, illustrating your most intimate fantasies! I can’t wait to share his ethereal work with you! You can read my recent interview with him below. Welcome to XConfessions Andri! Don’t forget to check out his artist page where you can see which of his images have illustrated your XConfessions!

Your work uses light and colour in a very beautiful way – how did you develop this style?
Over the years all of my favorite artists that I’ve come across, whether it be painters, photographers, or film makers, all had one thing in common, which was their mastery of light. I always thought in order to find my voice as an artist I had to understand the influence light had in my work.
Living in an apartment in New York City I never really had access to great natural light, so I thought manipulating light in a studio would be the next best thing.

Some of your photographs are of your partner – does it feel different photographing her or other models? Is it more personal?
Photographing my partner compared to other models is such a different experience. There’s a softness and intimacy I achieve with my partner that I can’t seem to find with other models. Some people have the ability to capture a persons true self with one photograph but for me it takes thousands of hours and photographs to even come close to what I’m looking for. This is why I don’t work with several models, but rather one or two. There is so much I want to get to know about the individual I’m photographing, and it’s hard to achieve that goal through one or even a couple photo shoots.

What made you want to collaborate with XConfessions?
Years ago, the first film I came across on XConfessions was We Know You Are Watching and it was the first time I’d watched something that was considered to be porn as art. This film was such a beautiful piece of work. For the first time ever I wanted to watch a film from beginning to end. The lighting, the art direction and story all came together to create a beautiful cinematic experience.
I’ve always wanted to be a part of a community that could represent my perversions and sexuality in such an artful way. I feel beyond proud and flattered that I would even be considered a fellow artist among so many talented individuals.

You say your purpose is to empower the female body. How do you do that?
The whole process of female empowerment starts even before the photographing of the model. There is so much I want to know about the person before I start working with them. I try to spend as much time with the model and have conversations about their life, their taste in art, their past relationships with their partners, and anything else that they wish to share with me. I always saw it as the woman having the power in the photo shoots. I find it a huge responsibility that is given to me when I’m working with the model, they put their trust in me to represent who they are as a person. So during and after the shoot I always share my photographs with them and I love to see their smiles and happiness when I’ve captured something that they can be proud of.

Do you see sexuality within your work or is it more abstract for you?
I feel my work has hints of sexuality but it’s definitely more abstract. It’s a collaboration of myself and the model coming together to create a piece of artwork. Although my photographs involve nudity it does not make them inherently sexual. It focuses more on the representation of the human self. This is why I use so much color in my work to help provoke emotion, power, and sensuality.

What’s in the future for your work?
Film, film and more film. I think transitioning into film is going to be a difficult process, but it’s a challenge I’ve been wanting to take for a long time. Specifically films that focus on subtle movement, breathing, sensuality and of course color.

Did you ever find a good visual representation of the female orgasm? Can you share it with us?
It’s not something I have ever explored within my work, yet. The one film that does come to mind, that I will never forget, was done by a studio called hegre-art.com and the name of the film was Flora Sweet Vibrations.

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on their performer page here!

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I am very pleased and excited to announce the launch of a new project – The Porn Conversation.

Myself and my partner Pablo Dobner have two beautiful children. And while the work that we do (Pablo is the CEO of Erika Lust Films) has so far been a separate part of our lives to that of our children, they are getting to an age where we know that soon they will start stumbling across the kind of mainstream porn online that we have spent the past decade trying to combat. According to statistics, children as young as 9 or 10 are accidentally viewing pornography – whether it’s through a nasty pop-up that slips past content controls on their iPad, or something their older friends show them, or any number of different scenarios.

So we started talking with each other about what we can do to protect our children. How can we help them to understand what it is that they are going to be seeing? How will they know that what they see isn’t realistic – in fact, the majority of mainstream porn is violently misogynistic, with damaging ideas about how men and women should look and behave, especially during sex? Are they getting the right kind of Sex Ed at school that will prepare them for encountering this kind of content? And what effect will it have on a generation who seem to learn most of what they know from what they see online – especially sex.

We realised that the responsibility for our children lay in our hands. That having a conversation with them, sooner rather than later, seemed like the best solution to the pervasive ideas of pornography that are going to being to infiltrating their lives before they are ready to understand it, let alone be of an appropriate age to be watching it.

And we also realised that this subject is still a huge taboo – and an even larger one in terms of talking to kids and teenagers about it. It is difficult and horrifying enough to think about having the “birds and the bees” chat with our teenagers – but to talk to them about porn? That sends shivers down our spines. But what is the other alternative? That they watch this content and feel like those are the ways in which they should treat each other? That men and women shouldn’t have hair, or cellulite, or an ounce of fat? That defining your sexuality in terms of racial categorisations is acceptable, or that lesbianism is only a tool to attract men?

The Porn Conversation is our attempt to help. To start an online community of people that start talking about porn with each other, and with their children. We have created guides for three different age demographics, that parents can use to start thinking about and having the porn talk with their own children, plus an ever-growing archive of videos and articles around the subject, so that you don’t have to rely on our experiences as parents and creators in the adult cinema industry. It is a not for profit project, built purely with the intention of starting a global conversation about porn and it’s role in all of our lives. But especially in the lives of our children.

I hope that if you are a parent you are ready to take the first steps on this journey with us. It’s going to be difficult, but I believe the results will be more rewarding than we could begin to imagine. To open up these conversations, to start educating our kids in porn, in what they choose to watch or they make an effort to avoid. In the hope that in the future, our children can have healthy, respectful and loving relationships with their partners – and with themselves.

There are articles and videos here, and if you have any questions you can leave them in the comments below or email us at talk@thepornconversation.org

I look forward to hearing your views! Let’s start educating our kids in porn. Time for The Porn Conversation.

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Where do mansplainers get their water?

From a well, actually

If you identify as a woman and currently exist in anywhere other than a remote uninhabited island, I’m sure you’re well aware of the persistent and frustrating interruptions we all experience when trying to be heard in the company of men. The terms “mansplaining” and “manterrupting” have become commonplace and practically pop culture with the rise of recent feminist movements, which seek to promote gender equality in society.

mansplaining: When a man speaks condescendingly to a woman on a matter he believes her to be ignorant of, when in fact his own knowledge of the subject is materially incomplete. The possibility that she may know more about the subject than he does is one that the mansplainer cannot fathom.

manterrupting: When a woman is interrupted by a man and naturally realizes the only possible reason for this could be gender discrimination.

according to urbandictionary.com 

In fact, a new app was recently developed which counts how many times a woman is interrupted by a man. It’s goal is to promote “equal voices” by reducing “manterrupting.” Using the microphone on your device, the app detects whenever a male voice interrupts you (for female users) and whenever you interrupt a female voice (male users). According to a study by George Washington University based on conversations between men and women “when speaking with a female, participants interrupted more and used more dependent clauses than when speaking with a male” which basically means finishing their sentences for them. The app was released on International Women’s Day, a celebration of women everywhere and a declaration of power against patriarchy!

However, what is actually being done to promote real change? Mansplaining and manterrupting have become buzzwords, easily brushed off by those who think feminists are overly sensitive. We’re becoming more and more aware of the issue and when it happens to us or other women, but are we doing anything to call it out? To change the dialogue?

In light of this new app, the marketers decided to team up with female artists on a project call “We Won’t Be Silenced.” Many of the female artists that collaborate with XConfessions depict images of powerful women, standing up to social norms and standards, like this illustration by Noelia Towers.

Isn’t it a little sad to let technology dictate sexism or gender inequality? Surely it sends a more powerful message to call out acts of silencing and discrimination when we see them. In a progressive society, men and women should be willing to take responsibility and learn. But of course, it’s not always that easy! I also think that putting these issues down to labels like “all men” interrupt “all women” is super cis-normative and generalised. But if you do need help in situations like these or find yourself constantly overshadowed in business meetings, I find interrupting back with phrases like “I’m so glad you agree with my idea, Bob” or “Thanks for reiterating my point so eloquently, Steve” can be pretty effective! Let’s try to look at the bigger picture here. We are still facing an uphill struggle towards gender equality. How can we make all of our voices not only heard, but viewed as valuable and indispensable, just as they should be? I can’t wait to live in a world where my crew can be made up of men and women, without the important roles and creativity of women being undervalued or stepped all over!

Let me know your thoughts in the comments section! Your voice is important!

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I have a very special gift for you Lusties

All your favourite things in one, lustful place…

I’ve gathered an extensive collection of my best films on DVD and turned it into one luxurious, lustful, collectors edition. The perfect gift for a lustful someone in your life, or even for yourself! You can immerse yourself in 9 hours of smart, sensual and explicit sex without constraints or having to sit at your computer. Now you can have 9 DVDs to add to your own personal collection.

Check it out here!

The pack includes some of my best cult films, like Cabaret Desire, Life Love Lust and Barcelona Sex Project. As well as a substantial part of my groundbreaking XConfessions project, in which I turn your most personal desires and fantasies into erotic shorts every month. You’ll have XConfessions classics like We Know You Are Watching, Boat Buddies With Benefits and Romance Bullshit. And even some of my most recent endeavors such as His Was First in My Ass and Try My Boyfriend.

Not only can you enjoy hours and hours of mesmerizing, erotic, adult cinema, you’ll also receive lots of extra bonus material and your very own provocative XConfessions tote bag.

THE PACK CONTAINS:

9 DVDs
More than 9 hours of smart and explicit sex
Extra bonus material
Special Edition Tote Bag

FILMS:

Cabaret Desire
Life Love Lust
Barcelona Sex Project
XConfessions 1
XConfessions 2
XConfessions 3
XConfessions 4
XConfessions 5
XConfessions 6

Check it out now in the store!

Enjoy 9 euphoric hours of Lust, you deserve it!

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 My dear lusties, Spring is in the air!

And we’re all at it like rabbits 

The vibrating kind, to be precise… 

Are you starting to feel the pang of summer lust and need a brand new shiny vibrator to play with? Or perhaps the Winter hibernation period left you worn out and in need of a newer model? Or maybe you just want to add to the collection!

Well, have no fear! I’m here to tell you about my top 5 vibrators! All available right here in the Lust Store

DOXY MASSAGER 

Known by many enthusiasts as the absolute number 1 in vibrators, the Doxy is the world’s most powerful mains operated wand massager. It’s heavy duty, but controllable and intimate. The head delivers a strong vibration that will penetrate deep into the body. It’s so strong that it will reverberate throughout your body, giving you endless pleasure all over! And it comes in different colours, which is strangely cute for something so powerful!

BIG BOSS G5 

As seen on screen in my very own XConfessions short Girls Fight Club! The Big Boss claims it can make a woman lose her mind with ecstasy! If you need convincing, watch Girls Fight Club now to see Viktoria Vaar prove that statement! It’s a vibrator for all those who like it big (9 inches to be precise!) Especially self-confident women and couples who know what they want and like intense pleasure will find a true sparring partner in the ring with this vibrator…

SOROYA RABBIT

One of the classics, the Soraya has to be the world’s most stunning dual-action, rabbit vibrator! Her seductive curves and sleek finishing touches, it’s like pampering! Fully waterproof, simple to use and with 8 modes of vibration and beautiful enough to display amongst your most luxurious items. Let her two stimulation techniques take you to greater and greater orgasmic heights!

STRONIC DREI POWER TOY

Another toy handpicked by me for one of my XConfessions shorts, and this time it’s the star of the show! In My Roomie’s Toy Eris Maximo and Lana Sue find the Stronic too irresistible! This is not really a vibrator, but a pulsator that offers one of the most realistic and familiar thrusting sensations, making it one-of-a-kind for pleasure! The added ridges and slight curvature will incite thrilling levels of ecstasy in your G-spot, while the thicker base pampers and pumps the clitoris and nearby erogenous zones. This also makes for an excellent anal toy! If you’ve been looking for a toy that offers powerful stimulation, intense climaxes, and an all-together breathtaking intimate experience, this is it! And perfect for couples too!

SECRET BULLET REMOTE VIBE

The Secret Bullet is a vibrating egg that you use with a remote control, so you can have total freedom of movement and fun on your own or with your partner, with no less than 10 titillating vibration modes! Leave the pleasure in your partner’s hands and allow them to direct the show, catch you off guard in the middle of the supermarket or work. Indulge in the excitement of not knowing when or where they will exercise their control!

I hope you’ve been suitably inspired! Head over to Lust Store now to check out all of these vibrators and plenty more!

Go on, spoil yourself!

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Check your emails! You might have received an invitation…

I’ve been working on a very special project and now I’m super excited to share it with all my wonderful, lustful fans and followers, like you!

Inside Lust is an exclusive club for our most-valued followers and fans.  You can become part of the Good Sex Revolution and earn rewards  for helping spread the word!

Reading educational articles and websites, completing fun quizzes and surveys, tweeting, sharing and taking selfies, and of course daring to misbehave a little, will all earn you points you can redeem for gifts, free films, or the ultimate prize, a trip to Barcelona!

If you haven’t subscribed to one of my newsletters, you can sign up here!

We’ve been working on the project for a little now, with a select group of members helping us to make everything just right for you! They’ve been indulging in online discussions about The Porn Conversation, sharing their favourite XConfessions films, performers and even sex toys! They’ve also been helping us spread the good work of the porn revolution by sharing articles or playing silly erotic games for a few extra points!

In exchange for their help, they’ve been earning points and redeeming their lusty rewards! You can earn yourself anything from a limited edition provocative XConfessions tote bag, to Agent Provocateur gifts cards and even a trip to Barcelona to join us on the set of a new XConfessions short or have dinner with my husband Pablo and I!

Sign up here!

We want you to join us! As soon as you enter the site you’ll find all the information, instructions and guidelines you need to start earning points. You’re fellow lusties will be waiting to chat to you. And so will I! On the site you have the opportunity to ask me anything!

Come on in, the water’s warm…

Sign up here!

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The way I see it, if you love my films, you’ll love almost anything by Verso. Although many of their scenes feature the fairly typical plot lines of mainstream porn (hot girl on hot girl, couples getting frisky at home) their ability to think outside of the box and bring our most common fantasies to life in new and intriguing ways are what make them one of the production houses to look out for. Verso create scenes which are vivacious, naughty and super hot.

Lucía knows how to portray good, feminist sex in a way that’s spicy and intimate at the same time. This is perfect for anyone who enjoys real passion and heat between couples. Expect lots of licking, oral and facial expressions that make you blush a little. All this plus uber talented performers, who respect and understand each other, pressing all the right buttons.

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Lesbian Love!

10 female-centric and lesbian fantasies in one collection

Throughout the XConfessions project I’ve received so many incredible lesbian fantasies. Whether they’re posted by gay or bisexual women, those who fantasize about trying something new or admissions of lust from those exploring and indulging new and exciting elements of their sexuality; they’ve all been confessions full of pleasure, respect and absolute lust!

I had the pleasure of producing my first lesbian threesome with three beautiful and captivating performers in I Wish I Was a Lesbian, by a member called dazednconfused. Zoe Geovanna, Paulita Pappel and Maria Agrado explore everything group sex has to offer! Starting with a light lunch and flirting, they engage in a loving and passionate threesome which became one of my all time favourite shorts!

Since then I’ve turned your confessions into 9 more tantalizing shorts; portraying foursomes, solo scenes, kink, rough sex and even ghosts!

My 2015 short Spectrophilia starts with an intense solo scene from Dido Wend, before she’s interrupted by the appearance of a ghost, Amber Nevada. This was one of my most art-house films at the time! And it was exciting to explore a little taboo; not just sex with ghosts but also a face sitting scene, which UK politicians seemed to be very much against at the time!

One of the most fun shorts to make was Meow Kittens Orgy. I released this foursome scene in 2016, based on a confession about costume fetish and girls dressed up as kitties by Amber Nevada herself! I couldn’t resist the chance to bring her fantasy to life, especially with the potential for feline fashion, licking, petting and purring!

My latest lesbian short, and maybe one of my all time favourites, is Girls Fight Club. I released the short earlier this year, featuring a cast of all your favourite female performers! It’s rough sex, domination and lots and lots of ferocious girl power, I love it!

I’ve complied 10 of these female-centric and lesbian fantasies exploring mutual masturbation, group sex and the pleasures of self-love, to create the XConfessions Lesbian Collection!

Available now in Lust Store!

The collection features these 10 short films (that’s 125 minutes of pure female pleasure!):

Girls Fight Club
Be a Hero
I Wish I Was a Lesbian
My Roomie’s Toy
Spectrophilia
My First Time Eating Oysters and Pussy
Meow Kittens Orgy
I Believe in Happy Endings
Hold Me So Tight it Hurts
The Ultimate Kink

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  Since the release of my XConfession Feminist and Submissive, I’ve had so much feedback from fans and followers

Our round table discussion caused a lot of thoughtful debate about how feminism works alongside BDSM practice! So I figured, why not ask another expert?

Amarna Miller is an incredibly talented actress from Madrid, a writer, traveler, feminist and activist. One of the most prolific faces in adult cinema and, more importantly, ethical adult cinema. Yesterday she even released a video on her youtube channel about her work in Ethical Porn, and with me – plus it includes a free giveaway!

I was desperate to chat to her about ethical porn, as well as feminism and submission!

You can read our interview below 

Hi Amarna! You were in my first BDSM film An Appointment with My Master and we’ve worked a lot together. How did you find doing a BDSM scene with me and Mickey? 
It was a pleasure to do the first BDSM scene that you directed. Especially because it means that you trust me as a performer and that you take the things you know I like and put them into the actual script, that’s something that I really appreciate.
I love Mickey. He’s one of my favourite performers in the world to shoot with, so I already knew that we were going to have super good chemistry. Both of us are also into BDSM in our personal lives, so it wasn’t like trying something new for the first time on camera. And yeah, it was really sexy!

Was it different to your other experiences?
Yes and no. Yes, because of the way you shoot your movies. It’s very special inside the porn community, so the shoot was very special. I really enjoyed that there was a lot of freedom between Mickey and I to decide what to do on camera. From the beginning you didn’t impose on us what we had to perform. You just gave us certain tools and an environment and a location and a tiny script, but the practices we did on screen were all improvised between Micky and I during the actual shoot. It felt like the kind of BDSM session that you would have in your personal life. Because there isn’t a script during the sex, you do whatever you feel like doing. So it felt very intense.

Can you divulge as to what drew you to BDSM?
I’ve always been a person with a very high libido and I’ve always been interested in expanding the horizons of my sexuality. I started in pornography because I really wanted to try new things and there were certain things that were too complicated to do in a normal scenario, in your private life; while in porn it’s more normative to do them. What drew me to BDSM was the hunger to try new things in bed and explore my sexuality.

You also performed with Parker Marx in one of my films in a more dominant role for Latex Sessions. Do you feel more powerful, or empowered in either situation?
Parker is amazing and that shoot was extremely cool. I really enjoyed being dressed in latex. If I had to choose my top 3 scenes for XConfessions, Latex Sessions would definitely be one of them.
This is a very good question because what we’re putting on the table is “do you feel more empowered as a submissive or a dominant”. From the outside, people who don’t know about BDSM see the role of the submissive as someone who is not empowered at all. If you are submissive, you are letting the dominant do whatever they with you and there’s no power in that situation. And that’s totally false. The submissive is actually the one who decides what’s going to happen during the game. The dominant person has to take care of the sub. The dominant person has to be in control of the situation and has to know exactly they’re doing at every moment. The submissive person can let themselves go, but at the same time, the limitations that they have marked are the ones that must be respected. So I would say both sides are empowered in different areas of sexuality. So to answer your question, I feel empowered in both situations. As a sub and also as a dom. Also, as a submissive you know that you can stop the game at any point, so that’s a way of feeling empowered. You always have a safe word that you can plan before with your master.

I know you identify as a feminist (yay!) – do you think women can be feminist and be submissive?
Yes, definitely. This is another myth that we have to start breaking. A lot of people think that BDSM is a pathological issue and that it’s some kind of illness. What I believe is that as long as BDSM is healthy, safe and consensual, it’s just another game that you can play in bed. There’re people who fantasize about teachers and colleagues, and doctors and nurses and there are people who fantasize about power roles. Power roles are constant in our daily lives. From a police officer to the student you’re teaching. They’re all having some power struggle with the people who surround them. So taking those situations and putting them in a sexy scenario is healthy, as long as you know that it’s a game and that you’re playing.
A lot of people think that feminism should control the construction of women’s desire and what I believe is that our desire and the way we enjoy our sexuality has been tightly controlled for hundreds of years. Now, for the first time, we have the right and the possibility to expand our horizons. Men don’t have these tight boxes that constrain their sexuality in the same way. For women, this is incredibly huge compared to men.

Do you think a man can be a feminist and be a dominant? Is there a dichotomy between the two, or is that just a social construct around masculinity and violence? Virginie Despentes once said “all masculinity is linked to violence”.
It’s true that the society we live in is a patriarchy and there are certain roles concerning femininity and masculinity that we have buried deep inside of our subconscious mind. However, our sexuality and the things that we desire are a reflection of the things we experience throughout our lives. If we live in a patriarchal society it makes sense that a lot of our fantasies come from that issue and that our fantasies are patriarchal. And that’s not wrong, as long as we can understand them and understand where they come from. We can be feminist and not all of our fantasies and desires are feminist. As long as we experience them in a responsive way, that’s good. A man can be feminist and can be dominant. Violence should not be attached to the concept of masculinity. If we try to change what we fantasize about we’ll end up with frustration and that’s not good. We have to be free to truly experience what we want to experience.

Check out Amarna’s page (+ all her XC films)

You work a lot with me, and with ethical, progressive companies such as Four Chambers. Can you tell me a little about why you enjoy working in porn that is more indie and alternative, and consciously pushing against the mainstream?
Well there are two reasons. The first is a selfish reason. I have been in porn for 7 years now and that’s a lot of time, so I’ve shot a lot of mainstream scenes. These scenes are boring in the end. They have the same 5 positions and the same stereotypes of beauty in men and in women, the same plots (which are fine but it gets repetitive). When I shoot for more indie productions it’s very cool and refreshing and I’m performing in something that I feel very proud of.
The not selfish reason is that I really believe that pornography has to change. We need more visionaries behind representations of sexual pleasure on camera. To create those kinds of scenes we need to support them. My way to support them is paying for them and performing for them as an actress. Porn needs to represent sexuality in a variety of ways. More varieties of beauty and people and bodies and ethnicities. To get to that point I try to support the companies that do it. Support the companies that are trying to change the industry from the inside, because that’s my own point of view. As a performer I have the right and I have the responsibility to help.

What do you think of the world post-50 Shades of Grey? Has BDSM entered the mainstream, and is this good or bad?
50 shades of grey is an interesting phenomenon. On one hand, I’ve always been very honest that I think it’s a bad book and I don’t like the way it’s written. I believe that they portray BDSM in an unhealthy, pathological way.
On the other hand, a lot of people who weren’t interested in expanding the horizons of their sexuality started trying new things in bed and that’s something that is utterly positive. We have to understand that 50 Shades of Grey is a book and it’s fictional and it’s not there to teach anybody. In Spain they were saying “porno para mamas” which is “porn for mummies”. I think that’s an interesting way to address it because these women my mum’s age, who had never heard of BDSM before, suddenly discovered this amazing universe of novelties and that’s something nice and positive.

What advice would you give women looking to get into the kink scene?
Good question! I would say don’t become obsessed with the labels that kink scenes put on the table. When we talk about submissive or masochist or sadist people, we are labeling something inside a very tight context. If you’re dominant you can’t like pain and if you’re submissive you cant have a dominant role. Really our sexuality is more of an organic flowing thing, you go with the current, you go with the waves. If you try to enjoy your sexuality in a more organic way, it’s easier to enjoy it in a freer way. When I started being interested in BDSM I didn’t know what to call myself. I liked pain but I was mainly dominant, so I thought I was a bad sub. I didn’t really know the differences between being dominant or submissive or masochist. Over the years this has changed, I’ve discovered that I also have a submissive side and I can also enjoy inflicting pain on others, so I have a tiny bit of sadism. Let’s try to think of ourselves as a complex mix of things that evolve, instead of a very tight rigid label that stays constant forever. It’s just not like that.

Want more Amarna? 

I put together a collection of all her XConfessions shorts here!

But that’s not all! On Lust Cinema (a membership streaming adult cinema platform) and Erotic Films (a pay-per-stream adult cinema platform), both of which I run and curate, we have a selection of films starring Amarna, plus three directed by her, which is all available to download on the Lust Store!

Fit by Joybear, Los Angeles by Nympho Ninjas, and Everything Is For You by Nico Bertrand, plus…

3 by Amarna, which features three short films, two of which star Amarna and all of which are directed by her: one a POV blowjob, one a woman masturbating and one of Amarna and Mickey in a passionate vanilla scene.

Or are you already a member of XConfessions? Or not heard of Amarna (where have you been?!) and want to check out some of our films together? Here is the complete list of all of her XConfessions below:

• Manual del Placer
• Latex Sessions
• Do you find my feet “suckable”?
• An Appointment With My Master
• Sit Down, Shut Up and Watch
• Romance Bullshit
• Before the Guests Arrive
• Sweet But Psycho

* Cover photo and middle two photos courtesy of XConfessions collaborator Maty Chevrière

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A huge part of sexual fantasy is imagining yourself as someone different, somewhere different, with a whole new set of tendencies and a whole lot less inhibited. We love to indulge these fantasies through films or stories, like in XConfessions, so why not take it a step further and live out your fantasies for real? Here’s some inspiration, from me to you, about how to bring your deepest desires to life with some role play accessories from Lust Store!

We all know the typical, go-to characters we find sexy… For some, our minds start whirling at the sight of someone in uniform or those who are the forbidden fruit; like coworkers, professors or doctors. For others it’s as simple as a dominant role, a submissive role or a stranger.

A recurring fantasy I see on XConfessions is the professor. The schoolgirl is a popular character in mainstream porn, but rather than focusing on young, nubile, hairless girls who are treated misogynistically, the confessions to my site tend to focus on how sexy a great mind can be. There’s nothing more alluring than someone you admire intellectually and my short film A Feminist Man encapsulates this perfectly! Why not try your hand at a little teacher play, with this luxurious wooden ruler, designed specifically for spanking? Le Petite Leçon is perfect for teacher and pupil role play scenario or other dominance games.

The brand, Maison Close, also make a huge variety of tantalizing veils, masks and underwear that you can browse and buy on my store right now! Including this utterly irresistible play suit worn by Anneke Necro in The Art of Spanking!

Perfect for pairing with the pastie of your choice! Add a little electricity with these lightning bolt stickies from Bijoux Indiscrets! They have a huge collection including a variety of shapes!

If you prefer something a little cuter or get turned on by anonymity, there’s nothing better than a mask to add to your costume. And I have a huge range in store! My XConfession Carnival Hustlers tells the story of two cat burlgers at a fancy New York party who catch each other in the act. Why not try the masquerade of lust yourself with this lace mask?

If cats aren’t your thing, spice up your Easter holiday with a game of Hunt Me, Catch Me, Eat Me, with these masks, as seen in my XConfessions short starring Alexa and Joel Tomas! Available in rabbit and fox, which one are you?

If you really want to disguise your identity, I have the perfect 3 hole mask by Fetish Fantasy! This comfortable, open-mouth and -eyes hood is designed to stretch completely over the head, while the thin lightweight fabric won’t hamper your activity. For the whole bondage, role play package, you can also intensify the experience with pleasure ties and a whip or feather duster, for ultimate sensory satisfaction.

Alternatively, you can always come as the greatest gift of all – yourself ! – with this Happy Lola sexy knot underwear, worn my Alexa Tomas in Meet Me in the Stockroom, an confession of office lust which results in a secret sex meeting between coworkers!

What’s your role play confession? Let me know in the comments!

You can check out all my role play accessories in Lust Store!

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Please Welcome Kali!

Follow me on Instagram! 

Hey! I’m Kali I’m the Talent Manager for Erika which means I work with all of the performers, organise them for shoots and take care of them on set. And I’m also a performer myself! I have been working in porn for one year (my porniversary just passed) and I cannot be happier. I have done a lot of things this year, from performing, to helping produce movies, to trying out sex toys, to speaking at conferences about feminist porn, to say the least…. my job keeps me on my toes.

At the office you can usually find me doing interviews with performers, eating/making food for my office mates and usually multi-tasking a thousand things. The part I love most about my job is being on set and in front of the camera. That’s where I feel the most comfortable, expressing my sexuality and having fun while doing it!

In my free time I like to write and read about gender and race, going to protests, making art, playing roller derby and practicing martial arts!

See my performer profile on XC here 

Favourite XC film

I Wish I Was a Lesbian.
Paulita pappel is my biggest queer crush. She’s just the sexiest and the sweetest human! I also liked how fun the movie was!

Moist
Hands down my pants, this is one of my favourite erotic films of ALL time. Even though I have never been fond of the word “moist” this movie had me hung up. The dream combination of Bishop, Paulita and Dante had me sweating and I definitely felt like I was sitting with them in that sauna. Poppy sanchez did a great job guest directing, and I can’t wait to see what she comes up with next.

Favourite Non-XC film

Dur Doux by Aorta Films. A great lesbian scene in the bathroom with a hitachi wand. What more could you ask for?!

Also, Aorta is an amazing production company that I adore. The directors are dreamy, the ideas are creative, and the porn is ethical!!

Watch it on Erika’s store here! 

Favourite film I’ve performed in

My favourite film that I performed in, isn’t out yet! But I will give you some hints, I got to perform with one of my great friends, Dante, and I got to wear a packing cock, and play with my gender. The sex scene scene involves some pegging and hair pulling. Get ready, it’s going to be a fun, queer and electric time!

Favourite toy from the store
I have to choose just one? Well I love the satisfyer pro. It’s a sex toy unlike any other. It sucks your clit and will give you delicious orgasms that make your whole body quiver! My other favourite that has already been mentioned, the doxy massager. No one can compete with it’s vibrations!

Browse the Satisfyer ranger here!

Favourite confession that isn’t a film yet

https://xconfessions.com/leather-and-girls
HOW isn’t this a movie yet? Basically all my fantasies are around female orgies and kink! So combining the both would be amazing. Also, I wouldn’t mind performing this Xconfession either

That’s all from me! Keep an eye out for my upcoming films too – I hope you love them as much as I loved making them!

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NEW RELEASE | XConfessions
Moist by Poppy Sanchez

This week on XConfessions I bring you the latest in my series of Guest Directed films – the neon-soaked, hot as fuck Moist by infamous Berlin ethical porn director, Poppy Sanchez. Although Poppy doesn’t have an enormous catalogue of work yet, the films she’s Directed have been unforgettable – and they’re available to buy on my store! But we’re here to talk about her XConfessions film – and I am so excited to share with with you. Featuring Dante Dionys, Bishop Black and Paulita Pappel, these three XConfessions regulars shine in a steamy, exhibitionist romp, shot inside the infamous Kit Kat Klub in Berlin. Get that towel ready, you’re about to get sweaty…

My first time in a swingers’ sauna. Everything was pure sex around me. He took my hand and drove me to the “wet part”, with the huge Jacuzzi in the middle of it. We smiled at each other, got rid of our towels and let the warmth of the water embrace our naked bodies. There were a few couples around us, some of them just chatting and relaxing, the others engaged in several types of sexual activity. We sat in the corner, he put me on top of him and started fondling my hair with a look full of tenderness and desire in his eyes. We kissed, our tongues making tours and expressing how much we wanted each other. There, in front of other people. He started caressing my breasts and gently sucking my nipples: that was going to drive me insanely horny and he knew it…..

Read the whole of Nico & Giulia’s confession Moist at xconfessions.com

Exclusive interviews here with Paulita, Bishop and Dante.

Dante is heading home in the cold of Berlin. He’s waiting at the bus stop on just another dreary day. Until he sees something on the floor… a leaflet? He picks it up, and so begins a night of discovery and voyeurism he won’t soon forget…

When he gets to the sex sauna, he’s a little nervous and grabs himself a drink. There is a couple in the corner moisturizing each other, getting ready for the next part of the night, and Dante can’t help but watch. They’re so gorgeous together, full of smiles and sultry moves. Are they looking at him?!

What follows is a scene of voyeurism and exhibitionism unlike anything you’ve seen on XConfessions before! Poppy uses some really cool POV shots and has Paulita, Dante and Bishop at various points looking directly at the camera. It really brings you into the scene, helping make you feel like you really are there with them.

Watch Moist on XConfessions now!

In XConfessions, people from all over the world share their sexual stories and fantasies. Every month I pick two and turn them into cinematic short films. Still not a member of XConfessions? Register now! Or share your sexual fantasy, and it might become a short film

* All photos in this post are by Karyn Hunt

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Lusties, it’s time to swallow your shyness!

Get your dating apps out and your fingers on the buzzers because now is the time you’ve been waiting for. It’s time to try swinging! Genuinely think I’m talking about a style of dance? Think again – swinging is the term used for couples who go and have sex with other couples! So whether you’re a salt ‘n’ peppa, aged to perfection specimen or a youthful bunny in an open-relationship, I’ve rounded up the best tips I can find to help you appreciate how sharing really is caring.

Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

In any situation of non-monogamy, open play or simply deciding to have a threesome or try swinging, you need to have a conversation in your relationship about it. That doesn’t mean asking in the middle of sex “wouldn’t it turn you on to watch me fuck another woman” and getting the response “ohh, yes, baby I’d love it”. I mean a real conversation, about jealousy. Swinging is about exploring as a team, within your couple, and meeting other couples either in private or in a group situation.

There can be wrong reasons to swing

Never do it to try and “save” your relationship, or if one of you is pushing more than the other. You and your partner both need to be keen, honest, and practical about what you really want. It’s okay to admit that you want to try swinging together – and it’s equally okay to say that you really don’t. But don’t say no immediately – take some time to think about it. Why not? Is it jealousy? What does jealousy really mean?

Find another couple together

Join Tinder or a threesome app and start looking at couples together. Be kind to each other – be aware of how your reaction to an attractive person might hurt them; there can be insecurities buried that neither of you know about. Don’t force each other to like people you like. It needs to be mutual, and this may take time, but it’s worth it.

Try a sex party

It can be quite hard to find someone or a couple on a dating app. It’s much easier to feel the passion and heat at something like a sex party where you are guaranteed to get laid together if you want to! Watch out for my upcoming guide to your first time at a sex party for more info on this…

Play it safe

Always use protection when you are hooking up with new people. Just because the couple you’re meeting are married, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t use a condom!

Learn from the masters!

At Erotic Films there’s a massive range of films that feature swinging couples and group scenes. So what are you waiting for? Head over and watch some trailers to see if you want to try it for yourself!

BONUS ROUND

This video I found from Nina Hartley is honestly … just. Everything. I love her. But wait for the roleplay.

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We have a new artist on XConfessions!

Introducing Oliver Sarley

“I notice how men of non white backgrounds are less comfortable putting themselves out there mainly because they don’t see themselves as beautiful or desired.”

Please welcome Oliver Sarley! The latest addition to my collaborators on XConfessions – whose images I use to illustrate your sexual fantasies and confessions! Oliver recently had his Instagram account deleted and it made me wonder – did he feel targeted because his art focusses on gay and queer male sexuality? So I thought I’d ask him! I love having these interviews with my artists because you really get to know them in a way you wouldn’t by just looking at their art. So please, follow Oliver on Instagram and check out his fantastic interview below!

Hi Oliver! Can you introduce yourself and tell me a little about your work?
Hey there, My name is Oliver Sarley also know as Oliraptor, I’m an erotic queer artist, based in London. I focus on photography and illustration; from the mild nature of nudism to full on wildness of sex and intimacy.

What made you want to collaborate with XConfessions?
First I love sex, it fascinates me and has always been something I wanted in my work, I’ve had way more confidence to explore this recently. I admire XConfessions films and the direction taken when it comes to using realistic bodies and unique stories. I’m rather excited at what you are doing to bridge gaps between those many areas in the porn world but also lifting it up to a new standard of cinematography!

Follow Oliver on Instagram!

Do you think the politics of mainstream porn applies to gay porn too?
Of course, we are one big mix of all types but in the end our communities are largely dominated by men, white men. So the standards of beauty in mainstream gay porn are very “shiny” very samey and not very diverse at all. Racism is very much a part of the porn world from those in front and behind the cameras but I feel people are learning to see beauty from many backgrounds not just what’s ingrained into their minds by outdated popular culture. I know there are still a lot barriers to overcome but I’m hopeful that these are already being torn down.

Do you see politics in your work?
Yes, more so lately than in the past, I’m not creating work to make people feel content with normality. My biggest struggle as a mixed race man, strangely is diversifying my own work, I notice how men of non white backgrounds are less comfortable putting themselves out there mainly because they don’t see themselves as beautiful or desired. There is a lot of negativity and slutshaming out there which holds many people back. I want men of all backgrounds to be comfortable in their own skin. My work is for all those queer guys looking for someone like them. I hope I can do that, give a moment of pleasure or relief. Hopefully one day the world will be on the same page when it comes to being respectful, kind and open to those around you who are different.

Your Instagram account was recently deleted. Do you have an opinion on why this happened?
This seems to be a more common thing, a social media cleansing? Creatives using nudes in their work being censored left and right. Terrible new algorithms deleting pictures of nude statues. It’s something we should be keeping an eye on, cause last thing we want is to see what companies only want you to see. Its pretty awful what is ok on social media still, gun violence, racism and misogyny at the top of the list. I will probably not learn why it was taken down or why I got it back a week later. All we can do is hope for more platforms for expressing love.

Are the men you photograph your friends, or models? Your work feels deeply personal which is one of the reasons I love it.
Thank you, it has gotten very personal at times, I’m not shy about putting myself literally in my work. Most of the men I’ve photographed are first time encounters. The process can be pretty organic, I’ve met some amazing guys, who are rather comfortable in being nude or trying something new. A couple have become friends, lovers and collaborators. I have fallen in love with a model, it’s pretty obvious who if you dive into my work a bit more. I don’t go into a shoot thinking I’m gonna sleep with someone, I’m there to create work. As much as I like to put my body out there, there aren’t that many erotic artists represented out there of color. My favorite shoots are couples cause I get to see how they interact. I want to capture moments, something different from the norm.

See Oliver’s XC Profile here

What’s in the future for your work?
When the sun comes out, I have some guys interested in nudes and risky sex outdoors! Always looking for models, I’d like to start working with male/female couples also. Recently posting new Illustrations I’m excited about, they are a call back to how I felt being stoned on a nude beach in Seattle. I have plans to make a short film soon about my last year, also check out the experimental short i did called WOLF_ Hoping this all comes together for my first show in the near future.

Find Oliver on Instagram / Tumblr / Twitter

If you could describe yourself in one image, what would that be?

Did you ever find a good visual representation of an orgasm? If so, can you share it with us?
O that is a tough one! I’ve seen so many! Sadly a lot of the time I can’t show those pictures and there lots! Here is a fav

Thanks Oliver! You can read all of the confessions that Aaron’s work has illustrated so far on his XConfessions profile here.

Until next time Lusties!

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