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Female Masturbation – An Interview with Dr. Betty Dodson

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Welcome to a new series of articles by guest writers on the Erika Lust blog.

 

Over the past 5 years I hope to have added value to your life and sexuality through the medium of pornography on XConfessions. Now I want to help contribute towards a bigger change by inviting experts to share their knowledge and opinions on various topics across sexuality, sex, porn, fetish and kink, women’s sexual health, relationships, human rights, female pleasure and more!
 
May is Masturbation Month and there is no one I’d rather kick it off with than the queen of self-love herself. It is my pleasure to welcome revolutionary sex educator and one of my personal heroines, Dr. Betty Dodson, to the Erika Lust Blog. Betty will turn 90 this August and let me just say – this woman is living proof that pleasure keeps you young. Betty has been advocating to normalise and prioritise self-pleasure for over 50 years. Now, I want to know what has happened over the past half of the century, what does Dr. Dodson think about porn, more specifically my porn (yikes!!), and why is masturbation so important? 
 

Betty Dodson, artist, author, and PhD sexologist has been one of the principal voices for women’s sexual pleasure and health for over three decades.  Betty continues her private practice as a sex coach in New York City.

Her first book, Liberating Masturbation: A Meditation on Selflove (’74) became a feminist classic. Sex for One (’87) sold over a million copies and is an international best-selling book. Orgasms for Two (’02) embraced partner sex. Most recently, she released Sex By Design that details her experiences with America’s Sexual Revolution, the women’s movement and her feminist sexual activism.

In 2011, Betty received the public service award from SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality) and the MASTERS AND JOHNSON AWARD presented by SSTAR (Society for Sex Therapy and Research. Betty was recently named one of the top ten sexual revolutionaries by Cosmopolitan and number 43 of the 100 most important people in sex by Playboy.

Follow@BettyADodson on Twitter!

Published on Thursday, 2nd of May 2019


 So, Betty you started your career in feminist-based sex education in the early 70’s,  an exciting time for feminism and the movement for sexual liberation. What made you start giving workshops and providing information about female masturbation?

Feminism started with consciousness raising groups where women would get together and speak first person about their lives. I was coming out of the group sex movement and knew I wanted to focus on sexuality.  I was sick of hearing women complain about their husbands.  My CR group was focused on “physical and sexual consciousness raising” which I later shortened to “Bodysex”. 

I think I watched everything Betty Dodson online. One thing that I LOVE about your workshops, is that you start them by making the participants look at their vaginas. Why do you do this?

The number one issue blocking healthy sexual expression is genital shame.  We all think that there’s something wrong down there.  By displaying our vulvas in a supportive group of women we see the beauty in our sex organ and the variety of vulva styles out there.  I’ve never seen an ugly vulva.  They’re all beautiful. 

“The number one issue blocking healthy sexual expression is genital shame. We all think that there’s something wrong down there.” 

What’s the most fun part about your job?

That’s easy. I get paid to jerk off with women (laughs).

Tell us about the Betty Dodson Method. What exactly is it?

It starts with self love and independent orgasm. Masturbation is the foundation of all human sexuality.  By breathing and squeezing/releasing our pc muscle as we roll our hips forward with a dildo in our vagina and a vibrator on our clit we are building up sex energy to create arousal for partner sex and deepen the orgasms we have with ourselves.  Women are bottomless pits of sexual energy.

Why do you think so many women come to seek your guidance in your workshops?

They want more pleasure in their lives.  They aren’t having orgasms or they’re having small orgasms and want to go further.

“Masturbation is the foundation of all human sexuality.”

What are the most common mistakes women make while masturbating?

They tense up their muscles and hold their breath – they’re having small orgasms but it’s not fulfilling.  Also, women don’t fantasize enough. 

Why is it so important that women learn how to make themselves orgasm?

How you masturbate is what you bring to partner sex.  If you’re not having orgasms alone, you’re probably not going to orgasm with a partner.  Masturbation is free and its fun.

Even in 2019, solo sex still carries a stigma. But compared to when you began your career as a sex educator, do you think society is now more able to acknowledge female masturbation? What are the most important areas that we need to work on and where are we, as a society, right now?

The culture has embraced vibrators and sex products for women which is a step forward.  We’re finally recognizing women as sexual beings and a market for sex product.  I would like to see more information about the internal clitoris and the female model of sexual response.  Young girls need to be encouraged to explore their bodies and engage in partner play when they’re birth control is in place and they can express their desires.

“Young girls need to be encouraged to explore their bodies.”

What do you think about porn?

Most porn caters to the male model of sexual response and the world cultures view of sexuality: male dominance and female submission.  I would never censor pornography but I would like to see more variety, lubricant and authentic female orgasm.

As a pioneer for self-pleasure for women, how do you feel about Masturbation Month? Do you think it is a useful initiative?

Any time you can get the word “masturbation” out there it’s positive.

And last but not least, I’d love to hear your feedback about my movie “Female Pleasure Circle” – What did you think? Give me the brutal truth!

Your film is what most people think my workshops are like – a beautiful, lesbian circle jerk. My workshops are focused on women stimulating their own bodies together but alone. It’s more about sisterhood and less about group sex. My only criticism would be your dildos. You can’t angle them like my barbell but they did look beautiful. 

“Most porn caters to the male model of sexual response.  I would like to see more variety, lubricant and authentic female orgasm.”

May is Masturbation month! 

 

To celebrate my favourite month of the year I am releasing a brand new sex documentary and giving it to you all for free so that you have some inspiration for your masturbation! 
The campaign launches tomorrow, Friday the 3rd of May. Just Click on the following link to get your free film: erikalust.com/jointhepleasurecircle

 

Female Pleasure Circle is a 45 minute sex documentary with 6 wonderful female performers who share their own personal stories about masturbating and pleasure, followed by group masturbation and a very hot all female orgy! 
So, this May I want you to all #JoinThePleasureCircle with me, watch the film for free and share it with your friends so that we can show the world that female pleasure matters!

 

And stay tuned for more surprises throughout the month and the chance to win a one year free pass to XConfessions on my Instagram

Watch the trailer below! 


On XConfessions, people from all over the world share their sexual stories and fantasies. Every month I pick two and turn them into cinematic short films. Still not a member of XConfessionsRegister now! Or share your sexual fantasy, and it might become a short film 😉

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